Why all of a sudden you won’t accept an offer? It’s a win-win situation for you and it is an offer you were demanding in a cruel manner months ago.
Six months ago, these were how things were going. You treated your spouse in a merciless and ruthless manner. You hadn’t spoken with her even a single word of truth but lies, hard lies. When you talked to her you addressed her with offending terms. You just dumped her just like rotten garbage. You refused to talk about ‘us’ instead you kept on talking about your affair with that woman. You were so proud of that ‘new found lover’ that every time you open mouth, you would discussed all about her being an intelligent, studied in a prominent school, her being beautiful and with having many suitors going after her. That you were very proud you were the one chosen by her despite the fact that you’re old enough for her. You even said that when she had you as her lover, you stood tall and very proud of winning her”love”. You even said you knew her very well and that she was a woman with dignity and is single (with no partner). You even went as far as discussing about your sexcapades.
You also defended her that she was not after your money because she has enough and in fact, she was the one who’s giving you aids. That she owned an apartment where you two were planning to live together with that child-borne- out- with- another- man. That you had told her that you were very good at fixing her furniture, and other household objects inside the house. That you knew how to cook and that you will be the one in-charge in this area. You even said to her that you also knew how to wash clothes because you were trained very well by your mother. That you will be an ideal father to her child and a husband to her. In short, you will be the one in-charged of all about her and that you were offering her a life of a queen.
You also said that part of your agreement of living together was that you will be the one in-charge of her child-borne-with-another man.In escorting and fetching that child to and from school. In fact, you had begun fathering that child by buying him his basic needs, paying part of his school fees and needs, bought him stuffs and even gave him ‘pasalubongs’ and you three went out together as a family.
You refused to see the truth then. That she has a live-in partner (not the father of her child), you chose to believe her lies too that their union is in trouble. That she was not happy with her man anymore. That she did not want and love her partner anymore despite the fact that she was and is still living with that guy in one roof, the apartment you were dreaming of. You refused to believe the truth before your naked eyes.
The most painful part of that was you have your own child and you have a family. There was no any problem between you and your spouse. There was no reason at all that would drive you to be in that kind of a relationship. Your accusations to your partner was all unfounded. Your actions were unjustified.
When confrontations transpired between you and your spouse, you accepted that there was not any problem between you and her. You even reasoned out your doings that “maybe our journey ends here”, just that simple. That maybe you and your spouse really didn’t mean for each other to be with for a long time. You insisted that your spouse ”should” accept that you didn’t love and want her anymore in your life. In fact, you offered her to have a civil relation meaning he will be living with that another woman and will be going home whenever he has time or that woman would permit. (Harsh!)
Worse, you even talked to your child and said the same. Even convinced her that she has no more family because you had found another and forced her to believe and live with that. Your child has heard all your accusations to her mother. You even told her that she has to accept the truth that you have now a new family. Your child has felt your sudden abandonment to her. She was so attached to you that she attempted to end her life and refused to do the things she usually did. She even refused to breathe anymore. But it didn’t matter to you. You simply didn’t bother your child’s feelings then.You had nothing in mind during that time than being with that woman every minute.
Your child’s life was put to danger by that woman whom you refused to believe too. Your woman has planned to abduct and killed your daughter because she that thinking that your child will be a problem to her and might be a reason for you and your spouse to be reunited. Still, you won’t believe it. That’s how you worship your woman.
As you had said, things changed. Your woman has changed her feelings towards you. Why? Because she found a new partner-in-bed better than you. It’s just that simple. The woman you worship is a slut which you decline to accept. She’s never been the kind of woman you had known her to be. In reality, she’s not satisfied going out with one, two or three bed-partners.
Of course, it strucked you and you feel like banging your head into the wall but you have no other choice left now than go back to your family because that woman has dumped you.
So now’s the offer : a separation from your spouse so that you can live a life of your own design which your spouse can’t stomach. But you do not conforme to it now. WHY?