Daughter Kaye is half right. I am not really a writer. She’s right upon saying that I seldom write. I know I have many ideas in store but I don’t have the time plus the ‘motivating’ factor. Yes, I also agree with her that I only write when I am ‘low’. I really don’t know why. Maybe this is my way of relaxing? My therapy? Anyway, upon writing this I am not in any of that state.
I came across Kaye’s article about this domain which she wrote 16 June 2011. This is exactly the main and only reason for this piece. (Imagine that! It’s almost a year before I ‘stumble’ that write up.) I was touched by the content of her message. I did not imagine she has that thinking on me. How she’s looking up to my articles and waiting for it (patiently) because I write down ‘madalang pa sa patak ng ulan’. A saying for us Filipinos which is like ‘parang sakit ng tiyan, pasumpong-sumpong’.
No one can really prefigure where we are heading at. Where we are heading to. It’s like five years ago when our relation as daughter and mother was shaken. T’was a common shortcoming between parents and children. Idea differences. It was at this stage wherein Kaye believed she was restricted in her freedom of choice. That she was suppressed of her right being an individual. And she wanted to show to the world that I was the monstrous and horrific mom ever lived!
A situation which left me hanging and felt alone. Of course, being a parent (a single parent), all I wished (and still wishing) for them was(/is) for their own good. They just can’t figure it out, then. I just knew it (and I know it). Choice only left for me then, was to hope against hope that she will change her mind and outlook. I knew and had always believed that whatever conflict it is, will be resolved no matter what and no matter how long. I was readied to wait no matter how long it would it took for her (us) to realize, right from wrong and wrong from right.
Kaye, is now a successful woman in a career she has chosen and has (found her partner in life) Paul and blessed (with a very promising and pretty) daughter, Svet and I believe, living her life happily and contentedly.
Sometimes, differences like this comes to a realization how to live our lives. It is from these experiences do we learn to grow. Roads we are travelling in this life is challenging. Every minute of it, is. We just have to be aware and face it head-on. We must confront every detail of life’s conflicts and do not tend to be emotional in handling. Parents should learn how to be tolerant and accept their children’s shortcomings.
For now, I am happy with Kaye (and Paul) and my two other daughters (RB & Joey and Ayie & Lloyd), who has now a family of their own, and very satisfied with what life has offered me.